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Q:
Could you explain these verses in Ephesians 4:26, 31. Can we
as sinners be angry and not sin?
A
: Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure at a
real or perceived wrong accompanied with a strong desire to
to something about or against the source of wrong.
ILLUSTRATION #1 - You are driving down the road minding
your own business. Suddenly, a car pulls out in front of you
so that you barely get the car stopped without hitting them.
They proceed to drive in front of you at about half the
speed limit. You are angry. You honk at them and tailgate
them for a mile. You feel the rage in you and know that you
are a hair from playing bumper cars with them. Finally, they
turn off and you go on with your heart pounding and your
adrenalin flowing.
ILLUSTRATION #2 - You get home from work and step out of
the car. You are still seething a bit over the car that
pulled out in front of you. You come up to your porch and
step on a loose board you have been meaning to replace. It
comes loose and knocks you on the head. You grab the board,
wrench it from the one remaining nail and sling it out into
the yard. Thankfully, no one got hurt. "Tonight," you say
with absolute determination, "you get replaced." Later that
evening you replace the bad board.
ILLUSTRATION #3 - It has been a long day and you are
finally getting settled for the night. Just before you go to
bed, the phone rings and you get a call from someone in your
church. Your heart breaks while you listen to them tell you
about how they just found out that one of their teen aged
children had been lured by an adult over the internet to run
away from home. The police are seeking the teen and the
parent wants your prayers. When you get off the phone, you
are saddened but also angry--angry at people who would do
such a thing to a teenager. You think of all the dangers
teens face on the internet and you decide then and there
that you will get involved in providing instruction and
protection measures to other parents. You will fight to make
a difference.
So, is anger bad all of the time or is it sometimes a
good thing. We know that anger cannot always be evil because
numerous scriptures speak of God's anger (Psalm 6:1; Isaiah
9:17). "God is angry with the wicked every day" (Psalm
7:11). Jesus Christ became angry (Mark 3:5).
However, men are given many warnings against anger. Here
a sampling of the warnings:
Psalm 37:8 Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not
thyself in any wise to do evil.
Proverbs 14:17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly:
and a man of wicked devices is hated.
Proverbs 29:22 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a
furious man aboundeth in transgression.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry:
for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
Colossians 3:8 But now ye also put off all these; anger,
wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your
mouth.
James 1:20 For the wrath of man worketh not the
righteousness of God.
Obviously, man cannot handle anger as God does and it
often leads him to sin. However, anger itself is not a sin;
it only tends to lead men to sin. But why men and not God? I
think the answer lies in the self-centered nature of man. We
get angry because someone did us wrong and we want to settle
the score. Therefore, it quickly leads to sin. But God's
outlook is always righteous and just. When He gets angry, He
will respond in a righteous manner and no wrong will be
committed.
Anger is a powerful motivator. It pumps us up with energy
and removes natural inhibitions. When sufficiently angry, we
lose all fears and inhibitions; we do not care about the
other results of our actions; we only want to make things
right. Ah, herein lies the rub. In our rage, we tend to
overlook the other consequences of our actions and become
ultimately self-centered--not caring how anyone else is
effected. As such, we usually do wrong; that is, we sin.
So, how do we deal with anger is such a way as to benefit
from its motivational energy without reaping the disastrous
effects of its unhindered execution? Well, if we are to be
godly in our anger, then we need to look to God as our
example in anger. Three characteristics of the anger of the
Lord are applicable to us.
- God is slow to anger. "The LORD is merciful and
gracious, slow to anger, and plenteous in mercy" (Psalm
103:8). Therefore, we also should be slow to anger. "He
that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he
that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city"
(Proverbs 16:32). Most of the unrighteous acts caused by
anger come from knee-jerk anger. Something happens or
someone says something to offend us and we immediately
respond in like kind and usually with harmful results.
This is not godly anger and it should be put away from
the life of the believer. To be slow to anger means we
must pull the reins on this desire to respond
immediately and harshly. We must keep our anger on a
short leash. Proverbs 14:17 warns, "He that is soon
angry dealeth foolishly."
- God keeps His anger under control: "yea, many a time
turned he his anger away, and did not stir up all his
wrath" (Psalm 78:38). The righteous man must do the
same. "The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and
it is his glory to pass over a transgression" (Proverbs
19:11). That is why we are told in Ephesians 4:26, "Be
ye angry, and sin not." There are things in this world
that will stir up our anger. There are some things that
should make us angry. But we must keep that anger under
control recognizing its tendency to lead us into sin.
- God is quick to release His anger: "For his anger
endureth but a moment" (Psalm 30:5). We are also told to
quickly leave our anger behind: "Cease from anger, and
forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil"
(Psalm 37:8). The practical rule of thumb given by Paul
is, "let not the sun go down upon your wrath" (Ephesians
4:26). The worst thing we can do is to hold on to anger.
It will come naturally and it may even work productively
as a motivational starter, but we cannot drive our
engine on anger. It will turn on us and destroy us. We
must ever be ready to put it away along with the vices
of bitterness, wrath, and evil speaking (Ephesians
4:31). Otherwise, we will become what Proverbs calls an
"angry man" (Proverbs 22:24; 29:22), a man who stirs up
strife, abounds in transgression, and is to be avoided
by those determined to please the Lord.
Anger has many bad but some good purposes. God must be in
charge of our anger and He has given guidelines for
righteous living. If we will follow these guidelines for
dealing with anger, God will bless our lives and our
relationships with others. I pray we can all grow in this
area of our lives.
Till He comes,
David F. Reagan